Wednesday, 11 December 2024

Truths I didn't admit so that the internet wouldn't hate me

1. I shop on Shein. 

I actually love Shein, as it's the only place I can get affordable clothing. Even the charity shops around me are double the price of Shein, and I'm so tired of people going on about the ethics when most of them shop in Primark or on Amazon anyway. No store that gets it's supplies from abroad has ethics, and that covers most of the high street stores. If I didn't buy from where I could afford, I wouldn't have any clothes.

2. Reality TV.

I'm actually a huge reality TV fan. The Hannah drama on Below Deck? All of the MAFS controversy? And lets not forget Come Dine With Me and the "such a sad little life Jane!" 

I love grabbing the duvet, a bottle of wine and watching reality TV. My mum and I plowed our way through Gogglebox, The X Factor and MAFS and we love talking about the episodes we watch.

3. I do not recycle much!

I get so tired and fatigued with my disabilities that everything goes in the trash. It's easier and honestly, my plastic consumption doesn't affect the current state of the world. When big companies stop making plastic, then I'll start to believe recycling can work.

4. I'm only 90% vegetarian

I actually eat gelatine because it doesn't bother me! I think because it's in a sweet, I don't see it as something that's come from an animal and don't see the dead flesh. Also Haribos are really good.

5. I don't want to advocate 

Being online, I always felt like I had to advocate for others and do lots of work because that's just what people did. There were so many messages about speaking out and joining in with people's causes, and if you didn't you were seen as not being supportive. Thing is, it takes so much energy and you're sucked into belief systems that you don't stop and learn first, to see if you actually believe them. Id rather move away from the noise of the internet and figure out my own truth, and help those directly in front of me. Plus there's too much hypocrisy on those who preach "kindness" online. I'd rather find the daily kindness and not be swept into a bigger cause that forgets it's true intent.

6. I'm a modest woman.

I am fully supportive of dress codes in schools and work. What I'm not supportive of is the message that girls are being "provocative" or "distracting boys", I think that's totally wrong, but I am a believer of smart dress and don't see the reason for wearing a skirt small enough to be a belt, and having your entire behind on show. I believe in classy, modest styles and I miss the way women used to dress in the 60s and 70s.

7. I don't think any parent that lets their child under 16 have access to a phone or tablet is a responsible parent.

I'm a firm believer in a Montessori upbringing. There's so much evidence of delays in the brain and behavioural issues from technology, as well as online safety issues, that any child shouldn't have access to tech. It's also annoying that it's used as a tool to help "regulate" autistic children, as I am autistic myself and my parents never used tech to help me regulate. There are so many safe options that don't end up with a tech addiction, and so many articles from parents who have gone tech free and seen a drastic improvement in their child's development and behaviour. 

I am so grateful to my parents for giving us only an hour TV time a day and not letting us have phones until we were adults, and only letting us on the computer when we had homework. 

8. Large age gaps should be illegal.

I hate any age gaps that are larger than 9 years. I think it's really unhealthy, especially when you have two people at totally different stages of maturity and development! Dating anyone young enough to be your child absolutely disgusts me and it feels predatory.


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